Life Is Good

I know, I just disappeared.  My deepest apologies.  Life has been quite a whirlwind the last several months, and I honestly just needed time to focus on the things that would undoubtedly affect my future.  That said, in my time away from the blog, I have received a new promotion at work and am in the processing of moving into a new (very nice) place, and working grad school tests and applications.  Life is finally working itself out for the better and I must say I couldn’t be happier about it.  Life is good.
I have received many questions about the state of the blog, and I am so grateful to have such a faithful following.  You all have made the rough days brighter, so thank you.  While this promotion takes away from the time I previously used to write, I am dedicated to finding a balance to continue to do what I love and what I get paid to do- both well.  I hate half-assing anything with my name on it.  So I won’t.
The most asked question among my friends since I took a break from the blog is, “has your finding love and/or being in a relationship now made you feel like you no longer have the need to write?”  I think that is a valid question because so much of my blog up to that point was about self-assessment and the things I desire in my next (and hopefully, prayerfully LAST) relationship.  In while being in a relationship does deplete some of my free time outside of work, I hardly ever wrote after work anyway.  However, in regard to the question, I feel the complete opposite.  I feel as if I have so much more to write about and from a better perspective than before.  If anything, the relationship should add validity to what I’ve always said, eh??
Well, that is all I have for today.  So much to write about this week, but I wanted to start here before I just jumped back out there.  Again, thank you.

 

Life’s good!

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Still Clubbing????

Welcome to another edition of Light Fridays


I have absolutely no desire to still be clubbing at 40 years old.  None. Whatsoever.  While I have never been a frequent clubber, I am not sure when I will be ready to call a complete quits on clubbing.  This week in trying to figure out what the move will be for Howard’s Homecoming, I asked some 20 people or so what their plans were for that weekend.  One lone person stated he is probably not hitting up the club scene but looking for something low key at someone’s house.  I called him an old man.  But truthfully, the thin line for when it is still acceptable to be seen at public party scene and when such sighting is absolutely ridiculous is indeed on the horizon.

It is tragic when you didn't realize you are too old to still be doing this! I don't want to my memo.

I can’t say for sure when my last hurrah at the club will be.  I love to dance.  While most of my dancing is often done in my living room, it is hard to duplicate the energy of a real DJ and other people to, you know, dance with me.  During homecoming that energy is multiplied several times over, and it is just so much fun to catch up with everyone.  Actually, I use catch up very loosely…maybe to see everyone is more appropriate.  The truth is with the music blaring and the alcohol consumption levels not much catching up is taking place at the club.  It is crazy fun nonetheless.
I know one day, I eventually will move to a point when I will host the homecoming party at my house.  All of our kids will get to know each other as they play in the game room.  The adults will be in the living room really catching up and reminiscing on how we lived it up back in the day.  But for right now, I will continue to make the memories now for later.

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Forever Young: 10 Years Removed

Welcome to another edition of light Fridays

Well, today marks the beginning of the festivities for my 10 year high school reunion.  (*shout out to the class of 2000*) Though I am sure it will be a great time full of laughs and reflecting, I can’t shake one feeling: DENIAL.  I am in complete and total denial that 10 years have passed and so quickly.  I am no longer in my hometown and consciously made no plans to be there because it is hard to stay in the comfort of my denial if I actually attend.  Well, that and I don’t think much has changed since last I saw everybody.  As matter of fact, Facebook has basically dissolved the “I wonder how such & such is doing?”
When I was 18, I was full of potential, strong-willed, and goofy.  At 28, I am still the same person.  Or maybe I am not.  Maybe I am completely different- more sure, more determined, and more self-aware.  After reflecting, I realize I have no reason to be in denial.  I am in a beautiful point in my life and it needs to be embraced.  Actually I am glad that my high school years are long over because  I thoroughly enjoy the autonomy I have in my life.
Right now are times that I really want to cherish.  The times where we have access to the world we want.  Stupidity has fled and responsibility is welcomed.  Moves are being made and our mark is finally being made on the world.  And 28 is still young, right??

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Becoming Better: The Eternal Student

The older I get the more I am coming to terms that I will forever be a student in the life journey.  There is no point of complete understanding.  Love is no exception.  While, I attempt to define its parameters for my life daily, I am constantly learning something new about love’s characteristics.
From a young age, I always sought to hang around people that where I wanted to be.  My closest friends and family were at least a few years older than me.  I watched closely, I mimicked their behavior, and I analyzed the results of their actions whether good or bad.   By the time I reached their respective ages, I had it down pat.  And while I had my own share of obstacles, I had a blueprint to solve them.
Nowadays, I find myself around married couples, and more specifically, married women.  I have always thoroughly enjoyed the time that I spend with them.  I love to ask questions.   What was your first argument as a married couple?  What are the biggest changes?  What is the most rewarding thing about marriage?  And my favorite, “how did you know he/she was the one?”  They all replied the same, “You just know.”
I never thought I would get to the “just know” phase in my life and as I begin this journey from the familiar and safe to the unknown, I find myself looking within for a blueprint to follow.  Little did I know I would find the blueprint in the unknown.
Communication. Respect. And Understanding.
I am very familiar with them all individually.  But the totality of all is the blueprint to loving truly.  It is a tripod, if you will, so you can’t have two without having the third.  One is completely insufficient.  I have no desire to be insufficient.
It was this information and an earlier conversation with a good friend that kind of brought everything home for me.   She said, “Marriage is not just cooking, cleaning, and wearing playboy bunny suits every night.  That still is not enough.  To be a good wife, you have to be willing to be a student and always willing to learn.” I have always prided myself in knowing it all. *smile*  However, I feel there is a greater reward in having someone in who will nurture me to be the best person possible.  Currently in route to my best.

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