A committed relationship before sex? It is 2010 and it seems like an unrealistic notion. With each year, sex becomes more and more casual. “No strings attached” has taken a literal turn for both men and women alike. Well maybe, it is still just for the men. While the feminist movement continues to liberate women of their sexual inhibitions, freeing women of the stigmas of labels of whore and slut, these women are now free-spirited, finding herself, and simply enjoying life. And some may, but that number is minute in comparison to the women that use sex to audition for the coveted committed and fulfilling relationship.
Once upon a time, and a land far, far away, a man had to at the very least be your boyfriend before a lady would engage in sexual activity with him. Only 20 years ago, that standard was low. Today, that standard is non-existent. The lack of commitment required before sex is detrimental, not only for the sake of the moral barometer, but also because women have allowed men to substitute casual, unattached sex for the desired intimacy found only in committed relationships. With all of the progression, education, pay increases, and equal rights, women still want more- they still want a man’s sole devotion. It has gone from simply wearing seductive clothes to working out to look the best naked, from saying no “let’s wait awhile” to performing the best ride with the hopes that a man will choose you.
But women have sold themselves short. The best sex does not land the best man. Moreover, sex shouldn’t be the tool that is used to try to obtain or maintain a man. The supply of women willing to audition themselves out is high. The men willing to commit before sex are low. The risks are high and not in women’s favor. The frequent sexual exchanges only lower the woman’s current market value.
So the next time he says he is not looking for anything serious, believe him. If you want more, walk away and to someone willing to offer more. It seems preposterous to go to the tire shop with the hopes they will make you a smoothie. Equally absurd is the notion to physically invest in a man with hopes of gaining an emotional commitment.
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