Weaning Away

We all have bad habits.  Some people smoke, others drink, and some chronically re-involve themselves with people that had previously been sworn off.

Break-ups are hard.  And while the decision to break-up might be an instant one, the actual separation can be a long, emotional process.  However, it only takes a few lonely nights, and a few drunken texts to find yourself back in a situation with a person you know isn’t worth your time or your body.  Then of course alongside with a hangover, is the morning-after regret.  Those are the times when we want to use liquor an excuse.  Other times no such scapegoat is needed.  It is way too easy to go back to what you know, regardless of how toxic, than to move forward into the unfamiliar.  But familiarity and time does not automatically equate to a better relationship.  When you have loved this person so long it is hard to separate the physical from the emotional and again you find yourself in the middle of this train wreck.  I get it.

To move forward before an utter catastrophe, you have to be prepared to wean yourself off a person.  Fingers often type without any authorization and the next thing you have sent a text or called out of habit.  I could easily give a list of the obvious things you can do to begin to wean off a person from deleting numbers to hanging back out with friends.  However, the first step and the most vital step to moving forward from an old relationship is to actually want to be in a better place.  Most times, we waste so much time on trying to fix a broken relationship or trying to force someone to love us again that we forget that better lies in our future.  But you have to want it.  You have to decide you are worth venturing out alone, but better.