Wanted: A Househusband
September 17, 2010 5 Comments
Welcome to another edition of Light Fridays…
I have been fixated with the notion of a househusband for a while now. While I am not a fan of the Real Housewives series, it seemed to the revive the housewife movement making such lifestyle trendy and desired. What took some thousands of years to accomplish in the feminist movement for social equality was all undone within a year or so. Contrarily, I am not opposed to the need and desire to be a housewife for its intended purposes of providing a supportive and stable home for your children and family rather than the to spend the day shopping and doing “lunch” with other “housewives.”
It is for the intended purposes of the original concept to provide a supportive home to our family that leads me to desire a househusband. A househusband will cook, clean, pick up the kids, go over homework, and manage the household. What will I be doing?? Well, I will be working of course. I also want to go to school. And there is, of course, having the babies. I think that notion alone warrants a househusband, right?
I am open-minded, though, progressive even. I don’t mind him having a home-based business or working from home as long as he can balance the needs of the family. I mean the common goal is to raise brilliant and productive children that will in turn lead their people and country to greatness. Why can’t the man play a prominent role in that goal…at least until I get a Dr. in front of my name?
The Mocha Café 
Its not that they can’t do that. But, to your point about “at least until I get a Dr. in front of my name” well before you get that “Dr.” you probably won’t be making enough money to support a household by yourself. So then he’s not a househusband, he’s a
low-down, good-for-nothin, shiftless, ain’t shitnigga. And there are TONS of them around. Hell they’re easy to find. They at the HOUSE !!!ahahahah no no, not the ones that lay up in the house doing nothing but the ones that actually help out. and he and I both can work while but as long as he helps with the majority of the household duties.
You would be surprised at the number of women who have antipathy over this. For all those feminists out there, there are a surprising number of women who still want that tradtional male role for men to work and support the family.
The other problem comes when a couple actually embraces this notion and then the woman starts feeling like since she makes the money\, then she should have the final say about everything and starts looking on the husband as hired help. It is really true. I have seen it in too many canses. I am not saying this in contradiction to whart you are saying, just giving you fair warning to be careful what you wish for.
Blessings on you and yours
John Wilder
Yes, and my view is obviously lighthearted and jokingly. But i can see for either a man or woman how it can change the power dynamic in the marriage. That is scary and never really thought about it could affect me on a personal level.
As always you shed light in a brilliant manner!
Blessings.
If you are serious about a househusband, email me rickytyler@yahoo.com