I Like My Men… Ready

Ready and Prepared- or so I thought...

I once said, “I like my men, like my entrée at my favorite restaurant, ready and prepared by time they make it to my table or I am sending it back!” I meant it.  I mean it.  However, at the time, I was referring to the superficial- his style, his career and making him a good fit for me.

It was out of my frustration in “preparing” my previous boyfriend that the statement had derived.  He, like most men his age, was rough around the edges.  He hadn’t quite found his own style yet.  He lacked focus on things important to him.  He was good to me, but me being my helpful self was always suggesting ways for him to improve.  This is clearly why we didn’t last.  However, I did leave a positive imprint on his life, and he did for me as well.  But in months and years after, he begin to evolve into what I thought was the perfect man for me.  The one I “prepared” for me all along.  I was wrong.
As time passed, I said I no longer wanted to go through that draining grooming process.  I wanted my next man “to be ready.”  The statement in itself is not foolish; in fact, it is practical.  It was my definition of “ready” that was erroneous.  It wasn’t until the last six months or so that “ready” begin to take on an entire new connotation for me.  Ready, for me, is now more of a mindset, rather than a destination.  I’ve realize the thing that separates the exceptional from the ordinary is that the exceptional are always in route to the next point.  There is no settling or extended complacency but always willing to be the driving force in their own progression- spiritually, financially, emotionally.  Ready is willing and capable of accepting your significant other’s well being as your own.
I’m so glad I came to that realization months ago because I may have missed this.  I would have been focusing on the insignificant and unwilling to put forth the small effort toward my own readiness.  What I am fortunate to have now is a heart of eternal readiness prepared by life and designed specifically for me.  There is a stark difference in the present in the past.  In what I have learned is that hearts cannot be groomed.

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3 Responses to I Like My Men… Ready

  1. Some Guy Named Joel says:

    Isn’t this kind of contradictory to a blog you had on here not too long ago about how you didn’t want a ‘ready’ man because they had no potential for growth? (It was the blog with a picture of Carlton Banks on the front…..can’t remember the title.)

    Anyhow, I would like to meet a woman while I myself am a work in progress….I mean, it ain’t like she’s gonna be perfect herself…..that way, we grow together and I would appreciate her being there before the chips stacked up right, as the poker players would say.

    • The post you are referring to was actually written a year ago. And if you read today, you see how I defined ready as one who is always willing to be the driving force in their own progression. Plus this blog is a not always personal, most times it is topical and doesn’t reflect on my personal life.

      And once you are ready to receive, she will come.

      Thanks for reading as usual! 🙂

  2. Some Guy Named Joel says:

    Cool. I read that one and then read this one and just felt a need to point out that big change.

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